if women would stop pretending to be men… (Gavin McInnes)
Yes. — I should qualify this: I don’t think anyone should be anyone s/he isn’t.
I hate what second-wave feminism did to gender roles. It didn’t make room for anyone except mini-men. I like men! Don’t get me wrong! I don’t want to be one, that’s all. There’s all this fuss about there not being enough women in some fields, and I feel like I’m betraying women sometimes because those fields don’t appeal to me at all. I don’t want to be an engineer or an IT genius. I could see myself in science, sure, if math made more sense to me, and if math came naturally maybe I would be a scientist. It doesn’t. I have to really work at it in order to make sense of it.
Shouldn’t I be encouraged to do what comes naturally, provided it will also earn me an income? It took me almost a decade after high school to decide I wanted to go into social work — why? Because it pays poorly? Because there’s nothing really glam or prestigious about going in and being love in places that have not been loved for, well, ever?
Or if I was going to do something natural, it was always all about the money. I have news for you, guidance counselors: exploiting the talent that brings you joy sucks all the joy out of it. Writing to the market means writing things I loathe and wouldn’t read if you paid me to read them. (Except as a first reader with a red pen.) Marketing could be fun, in a Reggie Perrin sort of way. If it’s really more cutthroat than that, I don’t think I’d survive. I can’t do cutthroat.
I am all for people being people. What I am not for is this push for “equality” at all costs. I think as long as you’re pragmatic about what you want, and understand that you’ll have to support yourself eventually or help support a household, you should do it and forget what’s expected of you.
I am not equal as long as other women, in certain other fields, are automatically held up as examples of what I ought to be.